STICKS AND STONES
Updated: Nov 6, 2019
At age 3, my mother and father were told that their daughter would never amount to anything other than a dishwasher due to her “disabilities”. Years later, a teacher informed me that I was a “subpar” student, who would be lucky to attend a four year University and should look elsewhere at a community college. In undergrad, my eating disorder screamed that I would never be loved and did not deserve to live, as I was “weak”, “unfit” and “unworthy”. At 22, loud voices reminded me that I could never get into Graduate school, a 2.7 GPA painted a picture of a “weak minded” student. All my life, I have been surrounded by individuals whispering my limitations… But what they did not expect, was that the small whispers would lead to the roar of a strong, empowered woman.
We often hear, “sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me”.. I find this statement false and misleading. Sticks and stones do, indeed, break bones but words can break the spirit. In todays society we see the daily impact of our words, and must remain cognizant and aware of how our words can damage the very core of others’. However, people will say things. Ultimately it is up to us to give these words the power to erode our spirit or alter this destructive power into something much more beautiful.
We don’t know how much power we have. A small voice may tell us we are insignificant in this role that we play but I argue the latter. You are stronger than you know. You are more capable than you know. You hold the cards to your own destiny. Many would like you to believe that you are small, and voiceless and many of us believe the lie that we don’t matter.
YOU DO MATTER.
Many people in your life will tell you “no”. I believe, many people say this out of fear. Fear for the unknown. Fear of losing control. But their fear is not your burden to bear. I am here to remind you that you do have a voice, that you are beautiful, that anything is possible and that the sky is the limit.
Let me be clear, the word “no” in itself is not bad or negative, in some cases it can be a good thing. However, when the intent is to put someone down or make a statement that is harmful, this is when we have the power to say no more. Be brave in knowing that you are enough and capable of amazing things! Use these toxic comments as kindling of the fire that will illuminate your hopes, dreams and desires for your life. YOU can do this.
Turn your “no’s” into NO MORE. And start your journey to a whole new chapter of empowerment.