THE IMPORTANCE OF PERSONAL NARRATIVE
Updated: Aug 26, 2019
What makes a good story? When we think of stories we often think of descriptions of people or things that entertain. Growing up, I was drawn to Disney movies, taking note how young women dressed in elegant gowns who were always saved by the “perfect” man. I was shaped to believe that this was my future narrative. Ultimately the perfect story, right?
Per·fec·tion (noun), is defined as “the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects." I’d be lying if I said I never believed in the illusion of “perfection." In fact, I went as far as building the very foundation of my eating disorder on the concept of it. I believed that by ridding myself of all physical “flaw” I could obtain inner peace. However, by buying into the lie, I paid the ultimate price. I lost myself.
This is not what I pictured as my story. But I have found, that a good tale is not without its flaws and hardships. My life has many of those. Throughout my journey I have learned things about myself and others but most importantly, I have discovered how powerful a narrative can be.
What if we saw stories not as a way to entertain, but to connect? In my own experience, connection was the building block to healing. Telling my story allowed me to find a voice within myself that I never knew existed. Sharing my narrative allowed me to find myself again.
Telling your own personal story takes courage and vulnerability which can be terrifying. But when I started to voice my pain, my thoughts, and struggles I found that others would open up and share their own experience of pain, instilling connection... which in turn, creates new relationships and strengthens my own will to live and strive in recovery.
We all have our struggles. There is no such thing as perfection... and that’s okay! Because we, as human beings are beautifully flawed, we are allowed the freedom to draft our own narrative. We hold the pen and paper to re-write our future. We never truly know how our story can affect another person. Telling your story could be a gift to someone else. Maybe it’s time to be vulnerable and connect through your own personal narrative.
Corinne Weber, MA, AMFT #114004
Supervised by Dr. Vived Gonzalez, Psy.D, LMFT #89060
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